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Comparison robs dignity - because you NEVER know how someone else feels.
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Comparing losses (even within the same family) - can be so very hurtful. Why? Because each relationship is unique to that person and is NOT comparable. In fact comparing can minimize (and dismiss) their feelings.
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Don't be the cause for another person to "stuff" their feelings and pretend to be "fine" when they are NOT.
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Avoiding words like "you" "should" "never" "always" - as that will only cause them to stuff their feelings.
These well-meaning phrases are not helpful at all to say (or do)
- so please refrain..
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Get over it
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Don't feel bad
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Replace the loss
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Grieve alone
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Just give it time
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Be strong
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Keep busy
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Get a hold of yourself
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You can't fall apart
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Keep a stiff upper lip
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Pull yourself up by your bootstraps
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It could be worse
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All things must pass
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Not meant to be
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God brings good out of everything
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There are other fish in the sea
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The living must go on
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Be grateful you had him for so long
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You can (or already have) other children
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Aren't you over that yet?
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They had a good life
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At least they are not suffering anymore
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They are in a better place